Singleness

This topic has kinda been going through my head off and on, the Lord has been reminding me some things about being single.

One day we went to a 'larger' city, Wentachee, and did some shopping. As I was thinking about all the people in that city, but then, all the people in the world. I kinda stood amazed at the fact that in this HUGE world, God has ONE special person FOR ME! In the billions of people in this world, there is one that God has specially picked out for me. Isn't that such an amazing thought?! Even for you married couples, thinking about how God brought about your relationship and the fact that God knew EXACTLY who you needed for a spouse. That's just an amazing thought to dwell upon.

Even better is waiting for that special person. When its the right timing for God to bring along the man/woman "of your dreams", then He will! We don't have to search and look around because God has the perfect time and place where He wants it all to come about. I know sometimes it gets really hard to wait for the Lord's timing because we maybe had a plan on how we thought it was all going to work out (i.e. get married right out of school or at a such and such age....). Yet, if you think about when you initially thought would be a good time to get married, looking back and if your honest with yourself, it really wouldn't have been the perfect time. I have found, in my personal experience, its really a constant surrendering to the Lord. A daily thing. Just like surrendering your life to the Lord, its really a daily thing rather than just once and never again.

Psalms 27:14 "Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD."

 Psalms 59:9 "Because of his strength will I wait upon thee: for God is my defence."

 Psalms 62:5 "My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expectation is from him."

 Lamentations 3:25 "The LORD is good unto them that wait for him, to the soul that seeketh him."

Romans 8:25 "But if we hope for that we see not, then do we with patience wait for it."

I truly believe that if we are waiting for God to bring that special person in our lives, then He will bless us for it. But wait, so what should we be doing while we wait?! Right now instead of chasing after that cute guy in church or the pretty girl at Bible Study, we need to be serving the Lord as we wait. Then, when the time is right, if that is the person for you, God will lead and direct it. For the woman, God will give your fathers wisdom if that young man comes to your father asking to get to know you. For the men, God will give you comfort and peace when it is the right time to persue a relationship. Get involved in the ministries in your church! What a great way to keep you busy, enabling less free time, which makes less time to think about what you don't have and more time focusing on what the Lord is allowing you to do for Him. Focus on serving the Lord during these years, there are some things in serving the Lord that makes it easier to do without a spouse. Even right now we should be trying to save money for our possible future marriage. Praying for him/her is a great thing to do too, even if we don't know the person, just praying that God will grow and strengthen them, even if they may not even saved at this time, (we really don't know who God has for us, so its good to cover your bases) that God would show them their need of a Saviour. When God does bring that person along, everyone will know it. Its so obvious when God puts two people together, sometimes other people will even notice it before you even think about it!

So, all that being said, I am not married or courting, so this is from a single ladies perspective. I truly believe that if you wait for the one God has for you then He will bless you for it and you won't have to finally give your heart to the right person all broken and pieces missing that you have given to other people.

Now, if you have had a past where you have been with several different people, there IS HOPE! Maybe you didn't really even think about it before or perhaps you were didn't really care at the time. The fact is that now you know that waiting is God's way and it will be so much better in the long run, I really encourage all those singles out there to wait......even if this concept is totally new to you, start today!! God will bless and strengthen you for the wait ahead!!